Sunday, 19 November 2017

Baby Spake is One Month Old!


As I'm typing this post, I can hardly believe I have my one month old son laid next to me. The last four weeks have been indescribable but I'm going to try my very best to explain. As most of you will know, Joshua arrived 13 days late on the 17th October and it's been quite the whirlwind. I shared a post introducing him called We Had a Baby and since then the weeks have whizzed by.

Week one was spent in hospital recovering with Joshua one side and Arran the other when he was allowed back during visiting times, thankfully they were 9am until 9pm otherwise I probably would've demanded discharge much sooner than I did. I hated every moment of being in the hospital. The midwives said they were too busy to help me start breastfeeding so I battled on, on my own not knowing what I was doing, I was lucky if I had a slice of toast for breakfast let alone anything else because the hospital caterers forgot to come and ask for my food orders whether they were reminded or not and I was sick of having to press a buzzer and wait for someone to help me lift my baby while he was crying out, next to me. 

After one of the worst weeks, that first day home was so special as just the three of us. We quickly worked out how to put on a nappy although we had a couple of occasions where they were just a little too lose and well, you can guess the rest.

We started week two with Joshua sleeping in 4/5 hour chunks during the night and 2/3 naps during the day and he only lost a smidge of his birth weight considering I was really struggling with breastfeeding. We topped up with formula as no matter how much I tried to feed him or express, it was never enough, I kept on until I sobbed and he screamed in hunger until we made the decision to use formula and solely express until my supply stopped. I cannot explain the guilt I felt having to stop but I then contracted an infection in my caesarean wound and due to the severity and the antibioitics I had to take to get rid of it, I would've had to stop anyway, it seems it was never meant to be.

Week three saw Joshua become official as we registered him! We were also signed off from the midwife much to my doctors annoyance but as Joshua was happy and healthy, they pretty much washed their hands of me. Our next check is at six weeks so we'll see what happens then. Arran's paternity was fast coming to an end so we ventured out a couple of times for coffee and a walk when I felt up to it as I was still quite ill but we mostly spent our time at home, cuddled up in our little pod of three in-between visits from friends and family. I didn't want it to end.

By week four, Joshua was guzzling his milk like a pro and he'd found his voice. That first coo was incredible and now we coo back and forth at each other. We've just had our first week without Arran and thanks to family rallying round because I'm still not quite on my feet yet, it's gone pretty well. He's an absolute dream if you forget those late night colic attacks but overall, we really do have the loveliest little baby although we are biased! This has ended up being very long but I hope it makes some sort of sense. I may try and do a better formed update in the future.

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  1. He is absolutely adorable! The midwives sounds pretty shoddy, which is a real shame xx

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    1. Thank you! Unfortunately the midwives were so crap :( xx

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  2. Aw Alice this post just melted my heart. He’s so so so so cute and I’m so happy for you both ❤️

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  3. He is SO lovely hun, such a credit to you both! You know how well you have done, just by looking how sweet and happy he is! He is getting so big already, you know not to feel guilty even for a second over anything <3

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  4. Such a lovely post.
    The treatment from the hospital and midwives is so awful. Sounds like you have a great team around you to help you out. Hope you make a speedy recovery and get back on your feet soon x

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  5. Congratulations! I love the fog of love that envelopes the first precious weeks with your new baby.

    So sorry you had such a negative experience of hospital/ante natal care, sadly its the norm these days mostly due to midwife shortages. My daughter went through similar, and while sympathetic to the overworked midwives I was upset and angry on behalf of my daughter. I hope you manage to put that behind you and continue to enjoy your wee bundle of joy :) x

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    1. It's such a shame but it seems the blame is being put on cuts and shortages yet there really is no excuse for negligence. I just don't understand. Thank you for your message xxx

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  6. He's such a little cutie!!

    I'm so sorry the hospital let you down so badly :( I really hope they learn from their mistakes!!

    PS, I totally welled up at the last paragraph <3 xx

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    1. Me too! I have to say something when I'm ready xx

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  7. OMG I love this and I love seeing all Joshua's updates on your Instagram! x

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  8. You are doing so amazingly, I'm so proud of you for coping so well! Well done darling, a I love seeing your updates! Alice xxx

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  9. I am so so angry at the help and care you've received but I'm so over the moon that Joshua is a healthy and happy baby! I can't wait for cuddles! xx

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    1. Thank god he is happy and healthy! I can deal with me being unwell but not him xx

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  10. He is so precious! Sucks that you had an awful time at the hospital! I'm glad you are all doing well and healthy!

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  11. This was such a lovely post to read & it made me look forward to when I have my first child. Although I'm sorry that your time at the hospital was so terrible, that isn't what a new mum needs! x

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