Sunday, 10 January 2016

Why I'm Happy as I am



I didn't really have anything to post, the days are still pretty dark and trying to get photos taken is just a pain so I thought I'd just type and see what happened. I've never just written a chatty post on here before, keeping it mainly to reviews, events and any other old crap I want to post. I've always just assumed if I did one, that it would just be a dull arse post that would eventually just be converted back to draft, you never know, it may still go that way. Entering 2016 has been a weird one, with the ever mounting pressure to be something and someone, I'm not sure where I stand. I'm reaching an age where everyone expects marriage, babies, a fluffy animal and hosting dinner parties and I'm just not there; And I'm okay with that.

I'm happy plodding along, doing what I'm doing. I work, I come home, I blog, I eat food I shouldn't, I drink too many cocktails with my bestfriends and stumble home at silly o'clock, I spend ridiculous amounts of money on make up I barely use and I desperately want a cat. I don't want the stellar career, huge house, white wedding and sticky children, right now. What I've come to realise the last few years is that, what I don't want is what everyone else wants you to want. They, whoever they are, seem to think they have a right to ask the most personal of questions in regards to how you're living your life. They want you to conform to society, they want you to be doing your weekly shop and cooking Lasagne with your family instead of seeing who can neck the most Tequila shots without being sick. There is so much to see and do in the world to worry about going from school to uni to a 9-5 job, marriage and children. 

I'd much rather enjoy my life while I'm young, see the world with the man I love and just be selfish. Go for last minute dinner plans and fall through the door at 6am, spend £500 on shoes that'll sit in a box unworn, book city breaks and adventures at the drop of a hat. I shouldn't be made to feel guilty about it. I'm very lucky that my family and close friends understand that and my best friend especially is of the same understanding as I am as she's the one that sits with me until the early hours drinking those cocktails and shots talking about life. 

I'm not sure when society became so nosey or when people felt they had a right to get so involved in your life. Social media probably plays a massive part, glorifying lives and what the perfect one looks like. The thing is, there is no perfect life because no one can honestly describe what is perfect as it's such a personal thing. What is perfect for me will be completely different to someone else and so on. Respect plays a massive part in it and that is what a hell of a lot more people should be doing. Respecting their family members and friends decisions and allowing them to live their lives question free. I don't want to sit somewhere when I'm eighty and regret that I didn't do something because someone, somewhere frowned upon it. In the meantime I'm just going to carry on with my life, live it how I want to and continue to just be happy, giving a middle finger to those that don't agree.

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25 comments

  1. No one can tell you what's right and wrong. Live your life how you want and definitely don't feel bad! Those who are getting married are also doing tequila shots too ;) xxx

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  2. Really love this post! Completely agree that people need to accept and respect that a 'perfect life' is just a social construct which will be different for everyone, meaning that everyone's going to live their life differently and there's nothing wrong with that!

    Zoe xx
    www.stylingthechapters.blogspot.co.uk

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  3. Loved this post... please do more chatty ones like this! I even have people asking me know about settling down and I'm a few years younger! I don't know why people think it is acceptable to ask questions about personal things like that, glad to see that your happy being you! Tell them 'you do you, and I'll do me' 😂

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  4. I freaking LOVE this post!!!!! X

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  5. Love this, although even when you do get married and have kids, people still think you are doing it all wrong and stick their noses in where they aren't wanted with their comments and unwanted opinions, I have cut so many people off over the past year or two as I just can't handle the judgemental idiots that come with having a life these days!! xx

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  6. Love this, my polar opposite gal pal! I love seeing your life and seeing you do what makes you happy. Don't get me wrong somedays I'm jealous as hell but I also love my socially conforming life but its because I chose it. And that's what is key to life! Your choices xxx

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  7. Thanks for posting this!!!!!!!!! =D I do not want to have children ever and some people just can't seem to understand that!!!! I don't know why as I've never had the maternal gene being more drawn towards animals than small children!! haha! I'm so excited that both my BFFs have children as it means i can play with them but also hand them back at the end of the day! My other BFF doesn't have children either and she's ok with that!! She is an Auntie now and that suits her down to the ground. She doesn't want to change her lifestyle for the sake of conforming or doing what everyone expects her to do!! We're kind of the same like that which is brilliant!!!! :P
    Thanks You Annie for writing this I'm glad there is someone else out there who wants to travel the world and spend silly money on things we'll never use! haha
    Sarah
    @Sunshine_Saz

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  8. Ohhhh ALICE I LOVED this post so much !! You know what is SO weird.. I actually am married/work 9-5 yet people said to me 'you should be single & enjoying your life when you're this young and not saving your money etc... So LITERALLY the complete opposite .. It just goes to show you that there is no 'perfect life' and everyone should live the way that makes them happy and not give a crap about what anyone else says! As long as you are happy with your life .. That's all that matters ! And I am SO glad that you're happy .. Be fab and sassy & do whatever the HELL you want girl .. Because I am sure you're rocking it!
    Lots of love
    Saira
    www.throughtheglitterglass.wordpress.com
    Xxx

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  9. This post is SO refreshing! It's nice to know that you are not alone in your thoughts! I had my birthday last week (late twenties) and it's almost like people have so much expectation of MY LIFE right now due to my age... And I'm just here like let me live lol! Great post Hun x
    www.shannonkara.com

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  10. I really like this post - it's important to know what's right for you and not other people! I wish I could figure out exactly what I wanted but I suppose I have plenty of time. X

    alicered.co.uk

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  11. It's so annoying when people seem to think their opinion of what you should be doing is important to you. No one can tell you what's right or wrong, and quite frankly people need to stop giving advice where it's not being asked upon!

    Jodie | Jodie Loue

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  12. This is such a great post! People can be so judgemental when they find out that I don't want kids or that I don't think the whole marriage thing is for me.. I don't see why my boyfriend & I can't make the same commitments but without the ring & super expensive/stressful day. I just want to plod along, live my life how I want to without people thinking that they have a right to make me feel like I need to conform to their idea of perfect.

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  13. You Go Girlfriend!! I think people who judge and look down on us are just spiteful and have nothing better to do. They should fix their life first then think about someone elses!


    Parie x
    classandglitter.com

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  14. Amazing post!! I actually found this very inspiring. I am in my early twenties and starting to see people just a few years older than me settling down, having kids etc. Which is totally great and I would love that one day but I don't want to feel the pressure to be like this as soon as I hit a certain age.

    I love this quote: 'I'd much rather enjoy my life while I'm young, see the world with the man I love and just be selfish. Go for last minute dinner plans and fall through the door at 6am, spend £500 on shoes that'll sit in a box unworn, book city breaks and adventures at the drop of a hat'. Deffo gonna pop that in my phone notes!!

    Sarah xxx www.whatsasssays.com

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  15. Oh, society has ALWAYS been this nosy :) Where do you think the words "spinster" or "old maid" come from? I've been there and back and now people are asking if I think I'm on the right track for my 2nd husband and honestly, it is NONE of their business. I like your outlook!
    www.MarinaSays.com

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  16. Brilliant post! Isn't it funny how people can be so nosy about such personal things as having children, marriage etc! xx

    Beautylymin

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  17. Love this post. It is strange that people think they have a right to question those details of people's(mainly women's) lives. I usually get a shock horror face when I tell family members I don't want children, and its met with a 'you'll change your mind one day' response rather than a respectful recognition of my decision. Keep doing what youre doing and neck those cocktails! Xx Sophie / www.prettyandpolished.co.uk

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  18. Absolutely brilliant piece, and very well said! I'm one of the last within my group of close friends to get married, and I don't have kids and am looked at like I'm an alien because it's just not been for me thus far. Everyone should be allowed to do their own thing at their own pace. They're big decisions to make, and shouldn't be taken lightly, and good on you for doing things when you are ready, and not just because anyone else might think you should. Brilliant post! xx

    Rebecca - The Purley Girly

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  19. Love this post! Your description of your life is absolutely mind and that of so, so many others. Be happy you deserve it!xx

    oneandthesame.co.uk

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  20. Love this, I totally think that other peoples ie societys perceptions of what we should be doing by a certain age piles so much pressure on. I used to think OMG what am I doing with my life or I need to do X in 3 years, but really our lives and goals are our personal business! xxx

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  21. Really enjoyed reading this. People need to accept people for who they are and accept and respect their life choices and not make them feel guilty or inadequate. Unfortunately in my own community there's something really wrong with you if you are not married with kids by a certain age. They make you feel like an outcast and with repeated comments like, 'you wouldn't understand, you don't have kids' etc etc. There's no thought about how hurtful these comments are. I do want kids but life hasn't turned out how I wanted or expected.

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  22. Good on you. x

    Erin | beingerin.com

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  23. Couldn't agree with this more!! I want to travel the world and not feel tied down. Once you have babies there's no going back! You won't be backpacking round Oz til you retire

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  24. Such a good message. I may be married with a child but that's because it's what I wanted and nobody should feel like they have to live a certain way to please everyone else. Even now, I still constantly get asked when I'm having another child, which is not something I'm planning on doing at all! If you're happy with the way your life looks then that's what counts, not how many tick boxes you fill based on some ultimately meaningless societal rules. We're all different people - wouldn't it boring if we all did exactly the same thing with our lives?!

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